Private Victory will help you gain independence by taking full responsibility for those things you can control.
For success in this area, you must:
Mastering these habits can be daunting, but doing so will position you for developing your ability to work interdependently.
The first Habit: "Be Proactive."
Being proactive is the opposite of being reactive. It means you engage in purposeful action, rather than acting based on how you feel.
Being proactive helps to get you closer to your goal. It requires delaying gratification in the short-term so that you can obtain substantial gratification in the long-term: the benefits of achieving meaningful goals.
Being proactive requires you to focus on your goal, follow-through on your commitments and follow-up on "loose ends." This will get your closer to the finish line.
Your actions have consequences: either positive or negative.
The second Habit is: "Begin With the End in Mind."
Have you ever attempted to reach a goal without first determining what you wanted to do? Or, have you ever started on a journey because you thought it was a great idea, but you did not first establish the end-goal?
Of course. We all have. Me included. But, experience and getting results I did not want, helped me quickly realize that it is indeed a good thing to begin with the end in mind. In doing so, I increase my odds of reaching it.
This is how one person did it: Read it here: Print. Listen to it here: Audio.
She began with the end in mind!
The third, and final, Habit in Private Victory is: "Put First Things First."
In a nutshell it is the practice of keeping the main thing the main thing.
Not procrastinating, which is "putting off until later that which would best be done today."
There is a certain order in the progression of things. Keeping that order helps to advance you closer to your goal. Getting things out of sync results in delays, and possible denial.
Keep this in mind: "Procrastination is not your friend. With it, you can not win."
If you had to, how would you rate yourself (on a scale of 1-5) on the following:
If you rated yourself "4" or below on either of the habits listed above, take action today to improve your skills in these areas.
- Tom Peters